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Semi Secret Marriage|Halb-Geheime Heirat

It is done! A few days ago, on the 10th of October, I married my long-time (in just a month, it’s already been 6 years) girlfriend Wincy. We celebrated with just a select few friends and members of my family (7 adults and 2 kids, not counting the marriage registrar) and we’ve only told a few more friends (maybe 40 people, probably less) upfront. Since very few of you think of me as a secretive person, I wanted to spare a few words and explain why.
(Despite the fact that up to this point, no one has approached me in a “Man, Oli, why didn’t you invite me? Or at least tell me?!” way.)

Reason #1: I’m gonna be a father!

My son's growing fast!

My son’s growing up fast!

“Man, Oli, why the fuck didn’t you tell me?!??!!”

Yeah, yeah, I know. Sorry, I would have preferred telling the world, but my better half wasn’t the biggest fan of that plan. That’s why I’m sharing the good news “better late than never” and I hope you can still appreciate it and celebrate with us.

It’s gonna be a boy and he’s due on the 3rd of January, 2015. Unfortunately, most of the people I know that have been born in January are somewhat moody (understandable, it’s way too cold in that month and if your first glimpse of the world you’ll be living in for the rest of your life is such an unwelcoming environment, it will most likely affect you in some ways), but I’m hopeful that my son can be the exception to the rule and he’ll be a very happy person.

Reason #2: Family Issues

My wife (I’m not yet used to saying / typing this) has a somewhat torn relationship with her side of the family. It would have looked more than just a little awkward if one of the newlyweds invited 40 people and the other person only brought 1, so we decided to both invite very few people.

We want to have a “real celebration” at some later point. After

  • our son is born and doing fine
  • we moved to a place where we’ll have more space for a family
  • Wincy will also be able to “properly celebrate” again
  • the “situation” on one side of the family tree has been resolved to a healthy degree

No worries, it’s not like all of those conditions have to be met for us to “properly celebrate”.

I’ll add pictures of the celebration once I get my hands on them. I focused on some other tasks, like “making sure that all the mobile phones are switched off”, “ensuring that we brought the rings”, “packing the IDs”, etc. I’m certain that the pictures turned out great since we all had a good time.

What else is new? Wincy is doing fine considering the circumstances. She’s sleeping quite a bit and very often, she’s not able to make it to work. Fortunately, her employer is very understanding.
My business on the other hand is still going great. I’ve surpassed the goal I’ve set for myself at the start of the year (turnover of 40 k €) already, so I’m now reaching for some stretch goals rather than “taking it slow” – it’s better to aim for an eagle and hit a pidgeon instead of aiming for a pidgeon and hitting a rock.
I’ll soon™ relaunch my business website and I also want to maintain a somewhat active company blog then. That’s the plan at least, but I’m hopeful that there will be some reason coming along that foils it again… 😉

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